Monday, November 29th, 2010 at
6:00 am
Don’t become so well-adjusted to your culture that you fit into it without even thinking. Instead, fix your attention on God. You’ll be changed from the inside out. Readily recognize what he wants from you, and quickly respond to it. Unlike the culture around you, always dragging you down to its level of immaturity, God brings the best out of you, develops well-formed maturity in you.
Romans 12:2
All our thoughts, whether good or bad, affect our mood and our attitudes. When all or most of our thoughts are negative, we find ourselves miserable and depressed. And when we are miserable, we make everyone around us miserable too.
Now you may be thinking that going through your spouse’s affair gives you every right to be miserable, depressed and have negative thoughts. You are probably right, but there does come a day when our negative thoughts have to be turned around into more positive ones. If we don’t get our negative thinking under control, then we are letting the devil win the battle of our mind.
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Monday, November 22nd, 2010 at
6:00 am
But when I am afraid, I will put my trust in you. I praise God for what he has promised. I trust in God, so why should I be afraid?
Psalm 56:3-4 (New Living Translation)
When an affair has been discovered, trust is almost always shattered. It can splinter so horribly that it feels like it can never be restored again. You may even feel like you can no longer trust anyone or anything.
After I found out about my husband’s affair, I didn’t even know what the word trust meant any more. I no longer viewed the world the way I did before the affair. Everything was skewed and distorted. Everyone I spoke to I no longer trusted. If someone I loved so much and was supposed to love me could betray my trust so horribly, then so could anyone else. I no longer felt safe and I no longer had anyone I could trust and count on.
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Monday, November 15th, 2010 at
6:00 am
But those who wait for the Lord [who expect, look for, and hope in Him] shall change and renew their strength and power; they shall lift their wings and mount up [close to God] as eagles [mount up to the sun]; they shall run and not be weary, they shall walk and not faint or become tired.Isaiah 40:31 (Amplified Bible)
After I found out about my husband’s year long affair, I was completely devastated and crushed. I found that my heart would race wildly, I was short of breath, my head felt full of cotton, and my heart felt like it had been torn to shreds. Really, words cannot describe the amount of pain I was in. I had never, in my life, felt so completely devastated, hopeless and utterly alone.
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Monday, November 8th, 2010 at
6:00 am
Obviously, I’m not trying to win the approval of people, but of God. If pleasing people were my goal, I would not be Christ’s servant.
Galatians 1:10 (New Living Bible)
Something everyone faces in life is rejection and it comes in many different forms but having your spouse cheat on you is the worst type of rejection one can face. An affair can hugely damage ones self-esteem. I know that before I found out about my husband’s affair, I didn’t hate myself. I didn’t think I was a bad wife, a bad mother, a bad friend or even a bad person. But, after I found out about the affair, this all changed.
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Monday, November 1st, 2010 at
6:00 am
The human spirit can endure a sick body, but who can bear a crushed spirit.
Proverbs 18:14 (New Living Translation)
The LORD is close to the brokenhearted; He rescues those whose spirits are crushed.
Psalm 34:18 (New Living Translation)
I remember feeling that my very soul had died. I guess what I was really feeling was a broken spirit. I know I felt like I had been shattered into pieces. I really felt that I couldn’t go on. I was severely depressed and thoughts of suicide did enter into my mind. The pain that was inside of me was just too much for me to bear and I felt like giving up. Death, to me, seemed better than this never ending pain and agony.
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