Infidelity And Self-Esteem

Body and soul, I am marvelously made!
Psalm 139:14 (The Message)

The actions of someone else never defines who we are and we never become less of a person because of the actions of our spouse’s. I get lots of emails stating how their self-esteem has taken a nose dive since finding out about their spouse’s affair. Mostly it’s women and many of them can’t help but think their husband’s are comparing them to the other woman every time they are being intimate. Many times the other woman was younger than them and had no children and they can’t help but think that their husband’s are comparing their older child bearing bodies to that of the other woman’s younger childless bodies.

I have been there! My husband’s other woman was the same age of me and she had 3 kids and I had 2 and we were the same height but I was at least 60 pounds heavier than she was. Even losing the weight didn’t make me feel any more likable or lovable. Women have shared with me that they have had plastic surgery trying to look and be better than the other woman and each of them felt the same way, that the surgery didn’t make them feel any more likable or lovable either.
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