Separation Doesn’t Have to Mean Hopelessness

Who stood up for me against the wicked? Who took my side against evil workers? If God hadn’t been there for me, I never would have made it. The minute I said, “I’m slipping, I’m falling,” your love, God, took hold and held me fast. When I was upset and beside myself, you calmed me down and cheered me up.
Psalm 94:16-19 (MSG)

   

If you and your spouse are separated right now this in no way means that it’s over! It’s never over till it’s over! A marriage is never over until divorce papers are signed. Many places require 6 months to 1 year of separation before this can even happen. This is the time for you to fight for your marriage, not to fight against your spouse, but against the evil that is trying to destroy your life and your marriage.

I sought the LORD, and he answered me and delivered me from all my fears.
Psalm 34:4 (ESV)

   

If you are separated right now, then I am sure you’re experiencing a wide range of emotions, from love to hate, relief to pain, and from anger to concern. Being separated, especially if it’s not of your choosing, can be emotionally draining and can cause a sense of hopelessness. Always remember that there is no such thing as an “easy button” solution for your situation.

Never assume that your separation will lead to divorce. Your marriage can just as easily lead to a happier, stronger and more fulfilling one than you ever thought possible. It is very possible that your separation will lead to restoration, and the pain you are in now can is like labor pains which give birth to a new life. Where your separation will lead you is going to depend of what you both do, say, think and believe over the coming days, weeks and even months. These words, these thoughts, and these actions will determine the quality of your future life.

Know that God is probably more concerned than you are about the outcome of your separation. During your separation, you need to be leaning on Him more than ever. All you have to do is ask for His help and He will give it to you. Right now, more than ever, you need to be with others that believe in God and receive their encouragement. You need to keep your focus on God instead of your situation, or else you will sink just as surely as Peter did when he walked on the water toward Jesus.

If you are separated right now and need support during this hard time, you may want to consider coming to our Thursday night separation support calls. On these calls you will be with others that are going through the same thing you are. They can offer advice and comfort because they have been right where you are. For more information please see our Membership Page.