Here’s What Coaching Can Do For You
1. Avoid the Many Common Mistakes. There are many common mistakes people make in the course of trying to heal from affairs but they are in no way their fault. I wish I knew these going into my healing journey. Healing from the affair is hard enough without the added stress of mistakes and blunders along the way. By getting the right help as soon as possible you will be able to minimize any damage these mistakes can cause and really start to heal.
2. Get Clear Direction. Are you wondering if you’re doing the right thing? Do you have no idea where to turn next? With coaching you will have the confidence and the energy to move forward with your relationship. Together, we will devise an action plan for your healing.
3. Get a Clear Understanding of Both Sides. I have no “bad guys” in my coaching sessions. I do this because I know and understand the unique pain and challenges that both sides have when recovering from affairs. Both the betrayed and the one that had the affair need to feel understood. I don’t judge or criticize either party but rather I learn to understand both of them.
4. Identify Your Strengths and Challenges. Right now you are probably only seeing all the negative things about your spouse and marriage but I am sure that there are strengths in yourself and in your marriage and we will find them and make them grow. We will find out if your marriage is one that can and should be saved. We will also find out what all challenges you have and devise actions plans to conquer them.
5. Find any Hidden Issues. Many times you will find yourself wasting time arguing over surface issues (without knowing it). You’ll talk in circles and nothing ever gets resolved. You find yourself frustrated and wondering if it’s even worth it. With coaching you will be able to identify the “real” issue that you and your spouse are in pain over and then you will be able to fix it and move forward.
6. Save Time and Pain. I know firsthand that you don’t want to tell people about this part of your life but trying to go it alone will take MUCH longer and it’s WAY more painful then need be. With the right direction plan for your unique situation, you can heal completely.
7. A Safe Place to Be. You will look forward to our time together because it’s a safe place for you to be. You can talk about your concerns and know that you are truly heard. You will start to feel better because once again your life will start to have purpose and direction.
The Advantages of Coaching with Me
I have personally been down this long hard road and my husband and I have rebuilt our marriage even though at the time it really did seem hopeless. I have genuine compassion for your situation and I have a heart to help those who are in pain over their spouse’s affair. I have been where you are and I understand. I know how hard the healing journey is and I know all about the roller coaster of emotions that come with it. I have weathered the storm and I am here to help guide you to the other side also.
I feel so strongly about helping others in my same situation that I have worked hard and been certified as a Coach and I also am certified in grief recovery.
So Save Yourself Time, Mistakes and Devastating Pain
This is not an easy road and it’s a long journey, not a short one. There is no “easy button” for healing from affairs. The experts say that it takes anywhere from 2-5 years to recovery from an affair and I have to say I totally agree. No matter how disheartening it is to hear that, it takes YEARS! Not weeks, not months but YEARS to fully recover from an affair.
What you do with your time is going to be the factor of how long your recovery is going to take. What you choose to do is either going to slow you down or help you move forward. Really, time doesn’t matter; rather your continued forward movement towards healing is what matters most.
I will say that the sooner you get help the better off you will be. I have seen couples heal their marriages under the 2 year mark but that is only because the sought out help right after the affair was discovered. So, the sooner you seek out help, the better off you and your marriage will be.
This affair that happened in your marriage can be seen as an opportunity. Really! You have been given (rather painfully) an opportunity to learn more about you, your spouse and your relationship. You have been given the chance to thoughtfully and very purposely to recreate your life and your marriage. You are never going to be the same and really, do you want to go back to the way things were? I thought I wanted my old life back, but today I would choose this one over that one!
What You Need
Healing isn’t just going to happen if you try and go it alone. You need direction. You need support. You need to be well informed. And most of all, you need someone to talk your hand and walk with you to encourage you along the way and show you the best route to go.
That is why it’s so important to have your own personal coach by your side.
Coaching starts right where you are right now. You work with a coach to find the stamina and a plan of action so that you will be able to do precisely what is best for you, your spouse and your family.
Convenient Telecoaching
I offer convenient telecoaching. So, what is telecoaching you ask? It’s coaching that takes place over the phone. You and the coach will schedule a 50 minute session that takes place over the phone. It’s easy, convenient and I always keep things very confidential.
Working with a coach will help you move through the healing process faster and avoid the common mistakes others make when they try to go it alone. Coaching will also boost your self-esteem, help you feel better about yourself and your life and it will help you achieve the life and the relationships you have always wanted.
Want to see if coaching is a good fit?
Contact me and we’ll set up a free 30 minute complementary session to see if coaching with me is what you need.
Costs
After the free session we will go over a unique program that is made specifically for you and your situation. I take you where you are at right now and help you to get where you want to be.
My goal is to empower you, guide you in the best direction for you and give you the right tools you need to heal yourself and your marriage.
I look forward to helping you heal and grow and getting you beyond the pain and devastation of the affair and into a newer healthier place.
To book your confidential initial session please Contact me today! I will get back to you within 24 hours or less.
Contact Me
Are you hurting and feel very alone right now? I am here for you and I want to help you. Please contact me and I will get right back to you as soon as I can. No one should be alone when going through a spouse’s affair.
Note: I NEVER give out your email address to anyone. All emails sent to me are kept private.
